Meditation might not be the first thing that pops in your head when you think of mind-blowing, primal sex. But regular meditative practice can bring your sex to the next level by heightening your mental and physical awareness — here’s how.
It was a student at Ziva Meditation who inspired this article. He came to me after a full year of twice-a-day meditation and said, “You joked once before about meditation making my sex better, but what’s happening for me is crazy. I need answers.”
Animalistic, raw and mind-blowing were the most memorable adjectives he then used to describe his new found sexual prowess. He continued, “It feels crass to say, but my sex life has been stunning. ‘Meditation’ and ‘primal sex’ aren’t an expected fit, but now I’m a believer.”
He told me that since the first week of taking my course, he noticed not only that he was able to last much longer during intercourse, but also told me that he felt more control over his orgasms, had way more energy, and more of a sex drive as a result.
So why does meditation make you better in bed? Well, let’s consider context first. Many of us are stressed out, whether from work, our relationships, money, and a whole host of other reasons, circumstantial and otherwise. Stress increases cortisol and adrenaline levels, and these increased levels of cortisol and adrenaline decrease sexual desire and performance (among other negative effects).
Well, I am sure you’ve heard that meditation is an incredibly powerful stress-reducing tool. Therefore, it stands to reason that meditation can increase sexual desire and performance by reducing cortisol and adrenaline levels.
Now that that’s under our belt, let’s look at the top five ways meditation can improve your sex life:
1. Meditation gives you deep rest, which means more energy for sex.
“Not tonight honey, I’m tired!” How many times have you felt like fatigue been your excuse for not wanting to have sex? You’re not alone: exhaustion is one of the most common reasons couples don’t have as much sex as they would like. According to a recent study by the National Sleep Foundation, about one in every four married or cohabitating Americans claim they’re so sleep-deprived that they’re often too tired to have sex.
When you meditate you give your body rest that is deeper than sleep which helps you feel more awake afterward. This jolt of energy may be just what you need after work to energize you for adult playtime.
2. Meditation decreases stress, which means better orgasms.
Increased cortisol levels can prevent female orgasm and cause erectile dysfunction. According to a recent study, women whose cortisol levels exceed a certain amount can become physically incapable of orgasm. Think about it: do you feel aroused when you are stressed out? Probably not.
There is a reason why almost every civilization since the beginning of time has some sort of mating ritual before sex. Things like a nice dinner, champagne, oysters and music can help set the mood and relax you for sex. The more relaxed you are going into the act itself the more likely you are to enjoy it and therefore climax.
Oh, and men are not off the hook. According to Dr. Nelson E. Bennett, MD, an erectile dysfunction expert at the Lahey Clinic, “Stress, fear, anxiety, worry, and frustration cause your body to release adrenaline which constricts your blood vessels, andthat is bad for getting a good erection.“
Meditation moves you out of fight or flight and into stay and play. Within a few days of starting a meditation practice adrenaline and cortisol levels drop. Your brain will start producing more dopamine and serotonin which are bliss chemicals.This bliss chemistry in the brain helps to increase your sexual appetite and increase the intensity of orgasm.