We are both individuals and expressions of the universe. These are not mutually exclusive. The idea of no-self means that we do not interrupt this oneness with our individuality.
Enlightenment porn comes mainly in the form of books whose centerpieces are stories of the authors’ enlightenment experiences. In hushed and reverent tones, the author tells you how he became one with the universe. The story is intended to make you lust after an experience just like the one you’re reading about.
I was attracted to
Buddhism in part because I hoped to determine the nature and content of the scale of right
and wrong that I believed might exist. I discovered that
the question of what is and is not acceptable sexually in Buddhism is actually
a small part of a much bigger matter.