Polyamory can be a sort of “revolutionary love,” problematizing old narratives of relationships and creating new ones. The ability to connect deeply with other human beings begins to melt away narratives of us vs. them that exist under monogamous ideology.
What if we took lust and desire seriously as a form of wisdom and meaning, not just chemical response? What if lust is a sort of faithfulness? What if lust is the ideal of love and not the other way around?
Wherever you have a secret, that is where you are vulnerable. I learned to move toward the vulnerability, instead of retreating from it. By becoming vulnerable intentionally, through the effort of honesty and openness, we become strong.
Charles Fourier believed that we’d been bamboozled into a dead-end corner of culture, with no room to move. Guarding that corner was the concept of the family, and especially the monogamous married couple.
If you want to understand why sexual freedom is so threatening to people and institutions in power, masturbation is a good place to start.
Craddock’s message was that women had as much of a right to sexual pleasure as their husbands, and that this pleasure was a sacred right.
Sex shame in our lives and sex shaming in our cultural sphere are intimately tangled. Instead of telling you the right way to put a condom on or how to please your lover, this series will examine the lives and theories of thinkers who were interested in pushing sex forward in some cultural way.